[I Love Lockstock]

Has anyone ever had to deal with a classmate/friend/relative who lies about EVERYTHING?

There's this girl who is a friend of a friend, so I have to spend a lot of time with her when we hang out in groups. And she lies. About. Everything. Today I confronted her in a not so nice manner, and she said "Whatever, you're jealous."

I just don't know what to do! And my good friend who is best friends with this liar doesn't even get that she's lying! She thinks the girl is a professional ballerina billionaire who flies to New York City every weekend, hangs out with Lindsay and Paris and shops at Dior.

Any advice on how to deal/on how not to slap her?

[Jordan]

Wise up and change your friend circle. If your friend cannot see it then you need to mix with better and more intelligent friends.

90% of the time I'd be prepared to say that they only dismiss you because you're not buying into a world which they know is plastic. They want you to buy-into a world of their construct and their rules. It doesn't matter that it doesn't exist, just that they control it.

[I Love Lockstock]

That makes a lot of sense.

I just can't understand how this girl doesn't know that the other is totally playing her!

hjekjthkmwnvekjrkj. It makes me so angry! Gr!

But whatever, that makes a lot of sense, thanks.

[TheatreLuvr4Life]

A good friend of mine is a pathological liar. It's become quite a joke, and nobody believes any of the outrageous things she says. For instance, she was hit by a car five times in two weeks and was bitten by a fox and got rabies. We know it's because she wants attention, but sometimes it gets really annoying. So I understand what you're going through. It's better just to be like "yeah sure" and let other people go on about how amazing that is. If you know the truth, power to you. If the friend of yours is blind to it, but you don't wanna lose them as a friend, just let them find out on their own. That's what I do with anyone who believes my liar friend. Eventually, your friend will see it.

[what_the_heck013]

I can be a bit of a pathological liar at times... (honestly, that's the truth ). And I deal with lots of liars. You can always guilt them into being truthful. If you feel in your heart that they are lying, let them be a fool and keep lying, and keep your feelings where they are... in your heart. Just know in your mind that you're right and they're wrong.

[Eponine93]

That's the problem with actors. I'm not saying all actors are good at lying or all actors are pathological liars, but it's easier for an actor to lie in most cases. Which can be really frightening when you think about what power actors and celebrities have over the young people in the world.

[TheWitch]

Oh God a friend of mine is BAD. It's funny because I was just thinking about her when I saw this thread. It's been going on since she was pretty young. And the thing is: Some of her lies aren't things that you would be proud of. In highschool she's lied about getting abortions. Finding out she was pregnant and "throwing herself against a chair". Another time she said she was in a fatal car crash and watched her friend die. Yeah, pretty demented no? Those kinds of lies don't happen any more but she still tells some doozies. She said that she played Eva Peron in her college's production of Evita. Though she changes the story every time she tells it. Here's one of my favorites: One of my best friends in New York is the daughter of some one rather famous. Not only has this girl said that she met her (which she hasn't) but that she's also met her parents and been in their house. And it doesn't stop there. She says it's a "talking house". How's that for liar?

[Annie]

Oh my gosh. We had a girl in my group first year (theatre school...we're a tiny class and ALWAYS together), and half of second who was a pathological liar. It got the point that none of could take it anymore. She has a good heart, this girl, but it was getting out of hand and was pulling everyone else back. Right at the end of the fall semester, she dropped out of the program. We all saw it coming, but we actually thought the department would throw her out first. I've been thinking about her lately. Although none of us could stand her by the end (loooong story), I hope she's doing alright.

Annie

[audreydarling]

I totally know what you mean....it's true actors do tend to be better liars....though not all are......but I mean pretending is our profession we're almost payed to lie...yet I have trouble doing so...but that's ok sometimes........anyway I have friends like that too...one of my guy friends is a GREAT actor and he is also a good liar....which can kind of be a pain sometimes considering we used to date...anyway I also have friends who are lousy liars.....but they are pathological liars....but it's not just speciific to theatre, they just get away with it easier.it's a shame and doesn't lead to good situations...it can really screw things up.

[LisaKitty]

I used to work with someone like that. No matter what sort of experience or expertise you had, hers was better/stronger/more impressive/etc. I actually caught her in lies several times, because she wasn't very careful about which stories she told around which people, and they often contradicted each other. For example, she was constantly complaining to everyone in the office about the fact that her boyfriend wouldn't marry her, yet when we went out to lunch once and she ran into an acquaintance of hers that had recently married, the story changed to "Oh, yeah, I got married recently too, but things are complicated so I haven't changed my name and we're not telling anyone". I just took her stories with a giant salt lick, and basically pretended to be impressed while not believing a word that came out of her mouth.

[jazzygirlsings]

Yep...I know someone like that...goes by the name of "Mom"...

But seriously, she lies about the dumbest things!

[Luc]

Ugghh there's this girl in my school that lies about anything she can think of. She says that she has four mansions in the Yukon... yet she lives in a trailor. That makes sense. She showed me a picture of one of her "mansions...." for some reason, it looked exactly like the Banff Springs Hotel. Weird, hey??

I just tell her flat out that she's lying and that no-one believes her. She gets caught in her lies all the time... I love it! lol I'm such a horrible person. lol

[DaddyDiesel]

One thing about pathological liars is that its somthing they cant fully control. To where a normal person would know that they are saying a lie and can stop it. A pathological liar will say the lie with out even thinking about it. It just happens like its apart of there everyday speach. Somtimes they will lie and get it to a point where they almost believe it themselves. OF course this is in bad cases. I actually always feel bad for them because people hate liars. Alot of people dont now its somthing that pathological liars cant control so they harp on them when they catch them in a lie. And everybody knows nothing feels worse then when you get caught in a lie.

[ShadowInTheWings]

I lie a lot, but I'm not a pathological liar. I know what I'm saying isn't true, and I could stop myself from saying it if I really wanted to, but I don't.

When I was in elementary school I lied about having a boyfriend of the other side of the country (which I visit twice a year, so at least there was some plausibility there), I made up a whole long story, it was actually kinda interesting. I don't think anyone believed me, but that didn't bother me cause I enjoyed my story.

These days most of my lies are making up harmless little anecdotes. I think that comes from my dabbling in writing short stories, rather than from a desire to decieve people. Sometimes I just don't have anything to say, so I make it up.

I don't think I've ever encountered a pathological liar, or if I did, they had me convinced.

[DaddyDiesel]

Do you ever look in the mirror because you have signs of a pathological liar.

[NoOneMournsTheWicked]

I don't consider myself a pathological liar, as I only lie about minor things and mostly to my parents. The majority of my lies are "Yeah, ma, I'm on the train, I'll be home in fifteen minutes! ::walks to pizzaria with boyfriend::"

[Eponine93]

I'm not a liar either, but when it comes to my parents, sometime's it is easier just to lie rather than tell the truth. My parents are divorced, so anything I say about one to the other can and will be used against them. My lies, though, are the extent of: "No, Mom, Dad did not leave me all alone for five hours..."

[Jordan]

Well there's a world of difference between

"I'll be home in 20 minutes cos the train's late." when you actually left the office 20 minutes late and

"I'll be home in 20 minutes because I'm just in the middle of advising Kofi Annan his latest strategies. No, he phoned me so it won't be on the phone bill. Tony Blair recommended me to him, says he can't trust his MPs but needs someone like me to stand in for him. If all goes well, Kofi's going to invite me to stay at the UN next week and deliver a speech on global warming. No, I studied global warming at work during my lunch break the last 3 years and I'm now the world's leading expert on it. I didn't want to tell you about it because I didn't want you to feel left out... yadda yadda yadda."

It's easy to do.

I on the other hand never lie unless it's amusing. I told my daughter that Dawn French gets paid for TV work in Terrys Chocolate Oranges because she got addicted to them after advertising them. She doesn't believe that now. But proper lies? Even little white lies? I avoid them at all costs because I know I'll get caught out. I can also face myself at all times because I don't lie.

[I Love Lockstock]

It's good to know other people are dealing with this. It's honestly the most annoying ever! And I can't lie, cause if I do I pull a Natalie Portman in Garden State and tell the person I'm lying. And it's so sad, I think she believes everything she says. Even though her dad works as a waiter in a pizza parlor and her mom is a homemaker..she still flies to NYC every weekend to hang out with her movie star friends and rub shoulders with the elite.

I guess if people want to believe her lies then that's fine with me, cause I can laugh at them myself and I'll have a grand old time!

Fake people are lame!

[LesMisForever]