[Bianca.]

This thread needn't exist anymore.

[convict24601]

I can't tell you much about how to handle it, because recently, I haven't been good on advice, sorry . But, I can answer your question.

I *love* theatre, and I'm doing everything I can to develop a great taste in theatre, seeing as many shows, fammiliarizing my self with great composers/writers, and developing a critical eye. Theatre, drama, singing, and, though i can't really, dance, has always been a passion of mine. My girlfriend says I'm romantic, and although I can't safely say that's true, I can safely say, 100%, that I am NOT gay.

Statistics, however accurate a reflection of the mainstream population they may be, don't always reflect the ones of us who don't fit the correlation. And I'm sure there's many like me, who have a passion for theatre, and everything that you are interested in, who's romantic, and even good looking, in this world. If it was meant to be with you and the other guy, it will happen. If not, then don't worry, because there will be a man out there who's just perfrect for you.

I was rejected a good four months ago, and I thought I wouldn't be able to get over it. Weeks later, I realized I really liked another girl, and now, we've been dating for 2 and a half months, and I've never been happier.

Theres "a light at the end of every tunnel" And you'll find yours soon, whatever it is.

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[Robinflamingo]

I married a man I met doing theatre 26 years ago. They DO exist. However, the chances of them being ballet dancers aren't quite as high, from what I've experienced. Dramatic actors, tap dancers, techies, and basses are your best bet

As for how to get over him...being his BFF and hanging around him constantly is NOT going to do it. If he's in love with someone else, let THEM be there for him. I know that sounds harsh, but it's pretty much the way it is. I wish it were easier.

If it's any consolation, I met my husband when I had sworn I would never date again, was coming off a bad engagement, and men were idiots. They are still occasionally idiots, but I wouldn't trade my husband for anything.

[Jenem]

So sorry to hear about your breakup; that's very heartbreaking. I kinda had a feeling from your recent post that something like this might come about sooner or later and that's why I questioned his excuse about needing time apart.

It sounds like you're handling this really maturely, so just keep that chin up; you're still young and you will find your perfect guy again. And trust me, there are some great hetero guys in theatre—but yes, they are few and far between, unfortunately.

[happyguava]

You poor thing, I'm so sorry to hear about that. You know what? There will be someone better for you. It's not quite the same thing but a while ago I was going out with a guy who I thought was perfect. We had everything in common, thought the same way etc etc. When he broke it off with me I was heartbroken. I was just a mess. But now, I can't stand him. He changed in a big way, and that's why he stopped liking me. Now when I see him I just cringe because I can't stand the person he has become.

I'm not saying this is the same for you - because you are obviously still very good friends. But just keep in mind that - whether you believe in religion, karma or nothing at all - there is a reason this didn't work out. Even though you might not be able to see it now, something will come along and make you realise why this has to happen. It's horribly painful, I know. Hang in there *e-hug*

[itsaboutonemoment]

Now's the time when we all want to find that musical theatre song that perfectly describes how we're feeling.

http://www.goldrichandheisler.com/pb/wp_81d45f7c/wp_81d45f7c.html?0.5852085849882622

Put this in your browser, click on the song "Out of Love." Unfo, you'll only hear the first verse. Here are the entire lyrics. Marcy Heisler and Zina Goldrich are amazing.

When you fall out of love, there is so much to do.
There are so many closets to clean.
There are boxes to stack, dreams to take back,
ultimatums to say and not mean.
When you fall out of love, first you sob, then you sigh,
and you wonder how phone bills can get up that high.
And you think to yourself that you really did try.
You really did, really did try.

When you fall out of love, there's a lot to explain.
There are so many angles to spin.
Was it him? Was it me? Either way now I'm free,
though I don't know quite how to begin.
Do I let down my hair? Do I put on a show?
Do I go to a bar and kiss boys I don't know?
As it finally sinks in that you really did go.
You really did, really did go.

You can tell your friends I was too crazy.
I'll inform mine you were never around.
Who knew that there would be so many ways of beating this into the ground?
Tell the whole office you never loved me.
I'll tell the lunch room I never loved you.
Isn't it funny how all of it, none of it, all of it, none of it's true?

When you fall out of love, it's an absolute mess.
Still the lessons are painfully clear.
There is hurt to endure. Still I think that I'm sure
that it's part of the reason we're here.
And your heart starts to crack, and you feel less than whole,
but you realize the earth still spins round on its pole.
And you learn you can function with half of a soul.
And you're wanting to scream.
But you don't say a word.
When you fall out of love.
At least, that's what I've heard.


I realize this one doesn't apply to your situation 100%, it sounds like you guys are still trying to hold onto a friendship, which is something that only every couple can decide for themselves if it's right for them. But it's still a good sond I thought you might enjoy.

I know things will get better for you sweetie. They always do. Tomorrow is another day.